Are you a hoarder? I think it's time for a change
Once upon a time, a woman lived in a home full of things. New unused things, old tired things, pretty things and dated things. She knew she should let go but the thought of throwing away these things gave her a sense of loss, waste and ingratitude towards them. Instead, she locked them in cupboards, stored them in lofts and imprisoned them in her wardrobe. Saying to herself: "Out of sight out of mind!". This way she didn't have to face the music of her decisions.
Sound familiar? Well let me tell you this, in some way or another we all hold on to things (you don't want to see my shelf of unread magazines, it's shameless), but today my focus is on fashion.
Now, hands up (me included) how many times have you bought something and never worn it? You were so excited by it but by the time it got home you realised you had nothing to wear with it? Worse still, nowhere to go in it. Yup I have two dresses that can back me up, on that one. But why do we do it?
According to Mind.org.uk we might hold on to our clothes because of these strong beliefs:
We need to keep things for the future
We are not sure how we'll cope/feel if we throw those things away
We have to keep things because we mustn't waste them
Our belongings make us happy or keep us feeling safe
Our belongings are all unique and special, even if they are very similar
Now I'm a believer that our environment shapes us, especially our home environment growing up. We don't just happen life doesn't just happen to us, however, our life and experiences do shapes us. So, how do we shake off the shackles of our fashion faux pas past and let go.
Well from my experience, facing your wardrobe demons are the only way forward. However, there is a step before that, which will make all the difference: Understanding your style! You've heard me say this time and time again, understanding your style, where you are at with your style compared to where you were is soooo important! Some of the things we hold onto, probably don't work for our style any longer or no longer fit us in a flattering way. Why? Because the last time I checked the only part of me getting into a uk size 6 are my arms. Our bodies change and this is the perfect time to get real with ourself.
Taking stock whether with yourself or with a Personal Stylist, like me, can really help you to understand the changes you need to make and how best to go about it. Think of us as your fashionable counsellors. We will help you to form healthy habits around your style and shopping, limiting your over-unecessary-spending. Now, before you say you can't afford a Stylist let me say this: Remember the amount of items sitting in your wardrobe worn once or if at all. How much do they cost in total? Or what about pieces you have bought that lasted a few months that you need to buy repeatedly or the items that don't fit properly, how much does that cost you each time? Or those gorgeous killer heels you can't stand 5mins in? Are you seeing where I'm coming from? I believe most people can afford a Stylist, it's all down to perspective. Plus, Husbands love us as we always save them money :D
If for now, money is still a bit tight, here's some quick tricks.
- Pinterest: Create a style board of how you want to dress on Pinterest. In fact, do one for day wear, work wear, weekend wear and date nights/nights out. This will be super helpful, but limit it to 10 pictures each or else you'll end up fantasising and never achieving your style goal.
- Wardrobe Edit: Look at your wardrobe and see if any of those pieces live up to the style you want. I would bag the rest and get ready to give to charity, but before that write a list of things your wardrobe needs to complete the goal. No this isn't permission to go crazy, thats'' why we have a LIST! ;)
- Quality: Shop wisely. Have you heard the term "buy it cheap buy it twice"? Quality needs to be the name of the game. Even down to your jeans, thin and over stretchy are out, whilst thicker quality and supportive stretch are in. Levi's are one of my go to's for quality jeans, however, these skinny's for price, are surprisingly good value. And if again, money is tight, head on over to TK Maxx, they've got all the quality labels at a great price.
- Subscription boxes: Want to limit your spend to the four seasons (winter/spring/summer/autumn)? Then try a subscription box like Stitch Fix, Thread, Lookiero... They all have a 5-piece system, that is tailored picked by your stylist. It's great if you are time poor and really helps you to make the most of each box. Do remember, they are actual people who pick your pieces not robots, so do treat them with care.
- Trends: Let's be honest, that's what got us into this mess in the first place. Buying because a celebrity or influencer made it look good and had different outfits every single day or to prove to others that you are on trend. To the gorgeous person reading this - Yes YOU! I implore you to stop. Find your style, work with it, love it, embrace it. And just like those people who have embraced their style, you will live freely and your spending habits will slow down. Trust me I know, I was the same.
So my gorgeous hoarders, I'm going to leave you to it. Feel free to message me for a free 15min chat and we'll go from there.
In the meantime, Happy clear out!
Love, Kookie x