top of page

My Thoughts: Mind your own business!

Last weekend, I had an interesting conversation with my nieces that really got me thinking. I was doing the protective nagging aunt thing, where you start telling them what to do, when it seems like they don't have a plan for their lives. I nagged, went on, until finally I got the shock treatment I really needed - 'We are not you! Let us figure out our own stuff and stop getting involved! Stop trying to be the intervention that was never asked for!"


Initially I was stung! I'm only trying to help. But then it occurred to me, they are actually fine, the person I need to be more concerned with is myself! No seriously! All those times I gave long lectures/texts/voice messages, I needed to play them back to myself and take my own advice! As one of my mum would say 'mind your own business!" And she is very right. Whilst I was planning out my nieces life, I myself had not made a definite plan of what I wanted for myself.

Long lectures

I had to apologise! I realised from that moment never again am I getting involved in peoples lives or decisions unless they ask me! Instead all my energy will be put into making sure I take my own damn advice.Which at times is difficult. I realise I have a 'Saviour complex' - I want to fix everyone and make them happy. Which, in all honesty, works in my line of work! Outside of that, everyones business is their own! I have binned my cape and decided to be a mortal rather than immortal! Because with great power comes great responsibility! And to be honest trying to save everyone is bloody tiring, not to mention time consuming!