Flowers Within – An Interview with a Creative Counsellor
So last week, we were all reminded of the importance of Mental Health on World Mental Health day. To me mindset is an important factor when I’m styling. I can make you look like a million dollars (it’s true!) but if your mind isn’t right you won’t feel it! That’s why I like to mix my fashion blogs with mindset interviews. This will be the third in a series of interviews I have conducted this year, because I believe in retrospection: The art of self-reflection. I find it of great value to understand why we do what we do, wear what we wear and breaking chains of habit! I can’t speak for other stylists but most of them will probably agree: Get the mind right and everything else falls into place!
I had the pleasure of interviewing and attending Chinar Abdulaziz’s ‘Flowers Within’ Workshop last month and all I can say is ‘WOW’! I’ve been to counselling sessions before but nothing like this. Sometimes we really don’t know what holds on to the inner darker depths of our mind until light is shone upon it! It was explorative and open and gave us the opportunity to look within, but gently, we didn’t even realise we were looking in. It was a counselling workshop worth going to and an interview worth having. And I’m happy to share it with you now…
Kookie Muhretti: Last month, I partook in your ‘The Flowers Within’ Workshop, which to me, was the most inspiring and invigorating experience I have had in a while. Tell us what was your inspiration behind the ‘Flowers Within’ Workshop? Where did the flowers idea come from?
Chinar Abdulazziz:To start, thank you for coming to my workshop. I am a Counsellor in private practice and have over 12 years experience in Counselling and Person-Centred Art Therapy Skills, offering creative workshops. The ‘Flowers Within’ workshop comes from a personal experience back in 2008. I experienced a secondary trauma that triggered off my primary trauma relating to a car accident, which my family and I were involved in when I was a teenager. I found that walking through nature, taking photographs of flowers and focusing on them when I was stressed helped me to stay calm, focused and grounded. Seeking professional help when I needed support was also part of my healing process. Then at the beginning of last year I came down with the flu and whilst ill, I recorded a poem I made called ‘Flowers’. Friends and family loved what they heard, they said it was relaxing and reminded them of a meditation and that’s what I decided to call it. One day in musing, it occurred to me that if flowers, nature and art could help me find calm, it might also help others. That’s when the idea of a workshop using flowers came to me. And whilst in meditation I heard an inner voice say ‘there is an inner world waiting to be discovered!’ That’s how I got the idea of the name ‘Flower’s Within’. I started to organise and facilitate the ‘Flowers Within’ workshops, now it’s all I offer.
KM: Is your workshop the same as counselling?
CA: My workshop is a little different to a counselling session because as well as using art materials, each participant explores their own process as well the group process.
KM: My favourite part was choosing the flowers that resonated with me, then writing about how it made me feel. I was surprised when I started crying! As far as I was concerned, I came to draw! But it awoke something within me – not sad – it made me look at myself in a different way, a non-judgemental way. I felt like the flowers spoke deep into me answering a question I was too afraid to ask or even know!
CA: You sound surprised!
KM: Honestly, I didn’t think I’d be affected by flowers! I was excited about getting creative! I do understand why some people would stay away from counselling, it’s that fear of what it could bring up. But this was very different.
CA: There are different ways for everybody to heal. It’s about trying to find the right one for you. This might not be for everyone, but it is surely an option and well worth a try. There are many benefits; some individuals may feel calmer, lighter and clearer whilst others may increase in self-awareness and self-expression.
KM: What has made you want to stick to flowers?
CA: The other workshops I did before were still art- centred but had different themes. Now I’ve discovered ‘The Flowers Within’ and the positive effects it has had on people and myself, I want to continue to focus on that and share it with others.
KM: What are your plans, going forward, in relation to the ‘Flowers Within’ Workshops?
CA: I have two workshops next year (2019) 17th March and 15th June, which I will vary so each participant will have a different experience every time they come. Since writing my first meditation, it has inspired me to write a book on meditations and to include a meditation at the end of every workshop.
I’ve started a ‘Flowers Within Book’ podcast that was inspired recently, when I started to listen to my inner voice and share my intuition with others in the hopes to inspire them. At first a lot of it was the same or similar, I almost gave up because nothing new seemed to be coming from it. But my intuition said to carry on. I trusted it, carried on and then one day I noticed a change in myself. See, whenever I became stressed or anxious I’d have automatic unhelpful, quite destructive, distressful thoughts, however after doing these recordings daily and listening to them regularly, I found whenever I felt stressful or anxious, these inspiring thoughts started to empower me and I’d receive less unhelpful thoughts. It definitely gave me the confidence to carry on and to let others know of my experience and how it’s helped me in the hopes of inspiring others.
Also in the future I plan to share my meditations on FB Live, some of these will be in my book as well. In addition, I will also give people the opportunity to get in touch and share their story how the ‘Flowers Within’ meditations helped them. These, I will publish in my newsletter or podcast, if they so wish.
KM: How can people get in touch?
CA: You can find me on my two FB pages - ‘Counselling with art’ for my creative workshops and ‘Flowers Within Book’ for daily inspiration podcasts. In addition, people can get in touch to share their inspirational stories in my newsletter, which they can subscribe too. On Sundays, I feature special guests, so if they want to contribute they can email me firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com What’s more I’m available on social media:
KM: Finally, is there anyone who inspires you?
CA: There are lots of people who inspire me, at this minute the two that come to mind are Brene Brown for her books are about vulnerability and shame, and Louise Hay for her books about mind-body connection and how we can heal. Both are inspirational speakers and writers that help, in a way, to inform what I do.
KM: Thank you so much for your time and wisdom and sharing what you do with us. I really appreciate it and can't wait to spread the word!
CA: Thank you for having me, attending and allowing me to share. I'm truly grateful for our connection.
And that's it my darlings! I really hope you enjoyed it as much as I did. Believe me you would have to attend to understand how awesome it really was! One thing I will say is if anything in this blog resonated with you and you feel you need that extra support in building your inner self don't hold back. Believe me everyone needs that special someone to talk to, to help them build the skills needed to silence those unhelpful thoughts. I may be a Personal Stylist but retrospection is equally important to me. Helping you to find a way to connect your inner you with your outer self and live your best life; that's what makes my job so amazing!
So have fun, smile, breath and allow yourself until next week when we are back on the fashion track.
Love you lots, Kookie x