Interview: Connecting with your Inner Self to Style the Outer You


Taking the lead

Do remember (don't start singing Michael Jackson or I'll have to show you my moves :-)) at the beginning of the year I said I wanted to collaborate with professionals from within coaching, nutrition, health etc. and relate it to fashion? Then in February I interviewed fantastic Business Coach Clare Whalley (you can read on my previous blogs and watch on Youtube). In our collaboration we talked about 'Confidence' and 'Ego', the effect it has on us, and why we do what we do! The thing I love about collaborations is the meeting of minds, finding those threads of connection, expanding it and looking at the same ideologies but from another perspective. When it comes to styling, to me its more than just putting you in clothes, or shopping to make you look good. Styling for me is about connecting with that inner you and then connecting you with your inner you. Once you form that connection, you gain confidence, and your whole persona changes of how you've seen yourself to how you really are. Getting dressed then becomes inspirational instead of a chore!

My newest interviewee this time is the lovely Leadership Coach Nisha Kaunda, she considers herself a dreamer, anything is possible if you can visualise it (my kinda gal)! And with that passion, she helps inspire others to push further than the boundaries they set, to take their business to the next level. We honestly were like two giggling girls before and after my interview, but we managed to pull it together to give you this fabulous interview (soon to be on vid)...

1) Kookie Muhretti: Hey Nisha, tell us a bit about yourself, and the inspiration behind what you do?

Nisha Kaunda: I'm a Leadership Coach whose passionate about working with entrepreneurial women, like yourself, to really help them to step into, own and amplify their business and their personal life. I think so many of us tend to hide behind our business, responsibilities, behind all the things that we have to do and forget to take care of our self. That’s one of the reasons that inspired me to start this business, because for years I did the same. Another inspiration was working with women and girls who were also stuck in a hamster wheel of life going through the motions not believing in their self and scared of living an authentic life. It became my passion to break those barriers and help them to really see the potential that they have within them and to see who they really are.

Inspiration

2) KM: Do you think planning and visualising is an important factor?

NK: Its really interesting question! I'm a natural dreamer! I have all these dreams and ideas and visions of things I want to achieve, yet planning is one of my weaknesses. Don’t get me wrong, I can do it, I just don't enjoy it! I'm more free-spirited. I love the spontaneity and the fun that comes with 'I want that!' Not ‘how I'm gonna get that?’ However, as I've gotten older I've realised its importance! in order to get what you want and get what you see you do need a plan. I recognise the importance of both!

If we can't see a better future and then connect to it emotionally, connect to it through our minds and then plan how we are going to achieve that future, it's just going to be a dream. We all have those dreams where we say “I'd love to do that one day, but it's not for me!”or “I can't do that!” So your question about planning and visualising really come together and they need to come together in order to give you something to connect to, to motivate you, in order to achieve it!

Material Things

3) KM: What process do you use to get your clients to visualise?

NK: We are all hardwired differently, so we learn and do things differently. I'm very kinaesthetic! I’m a hands on learner, instructions bore me I like to just get into it and see what happens. So when it comes to different visualising styles I've been there and done it all! What didn't work for me was creating a beautiful vision board because I’d put it away when family/friends came over because I didn't want them to see the things I wanted. Not that there was anything wrong with it, but again it was that idea of 'Am I selfish for wanting a Chanel bag?' over helping people. I’d have those feelings of guilt and fear of being judged, so I'd create it, put it away and in doing so, I couldn't connect to it I'd look at it now and then, but it was almost like my guilty little secret! When I did look at it, it'd be a “one-day I'll have all that!” And again it makes it all a dream!

What I found, I do it differently for each client, is to define what our own level of success is. What is success to us? Because if you don't do that you're always aspiring to what somebody else thinks or what society thinks is success. So, if you don't own 3 Louis Vuitton handbags you're a failure! That's not great! Because you could be the best person in the world but you're a failure because you don't have all those material things. Or you could be the most authentic person in the world but living really poor because you're not valuing yourself and your gift so it's all about havi